How To Get Your Girlfriend Back

Hello guys, Dan here – welcome to my blog. You are probably visiting this site because you have recently split with your girlfriend, and are desperately looking for ways to win her back. If that is the case, then I’m really glad you have found my blog, and I strongly suggest you keep reading. You see, up until only 3 months ago, I too was in your situation, and I completely understand what you are going through, how you are feeling, and just how much you want to get your girlfriend back. In this blog I want to share with you the tips and strategies that I used to win her back.

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About 4 months ago I got a text message from my girlfriend telling me that we needed to talk. My heart sank because I knew exactly what that meant. The talk was basically her dumping me, she felt things were not going how she wanted, and she needed some time apart from me. My world felt like it was crashing down around me, I couldn’t think straight, lost my appetite, couldn’t concentrate at work, and cried myself to sleep at night. I felt so pathetic and powerless – at 26 years of age, I was so angry at myself for feeling this way, but I just wanted her back so badly. Things were made worse when I was drunk… (I really recommend you stay away from alcohol during this time!)

I made all the classic mistakes that men make when trying to get back with their ex girlfriends. At first I bombarded her with text messages and phone calls, sent her flowers, and even wrote her hand written letters telling her how much I loved her. You see, this was the kind of advice that I was being given, and it just wasn’t working. In fact, it was making things worse… Then came the begging – I pleaded with her to take me back, and promised that I would change (I wasn’t even sure how she wanted me to change, but I still said it!) I basically just said everything that I thought she wanted to hear.

The result was terrible. She was more than a little creeped out by my behaviour (understandably) but it is crazy what love can do to a guy, the things I was doing seemed perfectly rational to me at the time. Things looked worse than ever. One night I started surfing the internet reading up on advice on how to win your girlfriend back, but most of it was just rehashed clichéd stuff that I knew didn’t work. I was desperate for someone to just tell me what I can do to get my girlfriend back. I probably would have done anything if it meant she would come back to me.

After a few hours of going through Google, I found a really detailed article and podcast from a guy called Matt Huston. As soon as I started reading the article and listening to the podcast, I really clicked with what he was saying. His strategy to get your girlfriend back was different to what other people were saying. Even better, it was specifically tailored towards men who want their girlfriend back – most of the stuff on the internet was general advice for men or women, or tailored for women only. It was refreshing and felt like the guy was talking directly to me. Click here to visit Matt’s website

In a nutshell, his strategy basically revolved around doing the OPPOSITE of what you feel you should do. Doing what I felt I should do had already proved a disaster so far, so I decided to give his strategy a shot, and followed his advice step by step – what did I have to lose? Things were already as bad as they could get, and I knew time was running out – it was only a matter of time before she found someone else, and I really didn’t want that to happen.

I started to do the opposite of everything I had been doing – and along with many other suggestions Matt makes, I cut contact with her, stopped begging her to get back with me, and agreed with her that us breaking up was a good idea. After just a couple of days, the change in her behaviour was incredible. She started to call ME, and she was no longer pushing me way. I didn’t cave in though, and stuck to Matt’s teachings. Every night I re read the articles and planned my next course of action like a military operation.

10 days after I started following Matt’s strategies, I got a phone call. My ex girlfriend wanted to meet up for a coffee to talk and catch up. My heart was racing, and I felt really excited, but I kept control. I told her that I was free on Sunday morning only (the phone call was on a Tuesday) and we set a time. When we met up, she basically told me that she had really missed me, and wanted to know if I would consider getting back with her. Victory tastes sweet my friends… And that has got to be one of the happiest days of my life, for weeks I had been closing my eyes and thinking about how it would feel to be back with her, and now my dreams were becoming reality!

I’m so glad that I changed my approach to getting my girlfriend back before it was too late. We are living together now, and everything is great, but I haven’t gotten lazy. I want to make sure she never feels the need to leave me again, so I’m doing everything I can to make sure the relationship is more stable, and lasts long term. I really hope this post helps you guys out and gives you some hope. Click here for more details about the strategy I used to win my girlfriend back

Before you start planning how to get your girlfriend back, I think it is important that you ask yourself why she left you in the first place. Unfortunately, if your girlfriend has ended your relationship once, she is more than likely going to do again sometime in the future unless you get to the root cause of what the problem is. The last thing you want is to enter a vicious cycle where she leaves you, and you have to go through the whole stressful process of getting your girlfriend back again and again. That does not sound like a recipe for a happy life to me.

Want to know the answer? You have to change your behaviour. It may sound like I keep repeating the same theme throughout my blog, but that is because it is the most important part to consider if you want to get your girlfriend back, and keep her. There is obviously something about you that is driving your girlfriend away, if you don’t change your behaviour, you may succeed in getting your girlfriend back temporarily, but you will not keep her forever.

So let’s look at the common causes of breakups, and how you can change your behaviour to solve the root cause.

Probably the main reason that women leave men is that you have changed, but done so in a negative way. You are no longer the same man that she first met. She was attracted to that man, loved him, and wanted to be with him. Perhaps you grew complacent? More likely you allowed the power to shift in the relationship, your girlfriend began making the decisions, you followed her lead, and allowed her to dominate the relationship. I know that this is what happened to me, and the only way to get your girlfriend back is to get back to being the man you once were. You need to show her that you are confident and it is you that is wearing the trousers in the relationship, not her. After all, women are attracted to men (apart from lesbians of course J ) so you need to start acting like a man if you want to get your girlfriend back and keep her.

Lack of commitment is often cited by women as a reason for ending a relationship. Your girlfriend may have wanted some form of long term commitment, which you may have been resisting. Some common examples of this include moving in together, getting engaged, and having children. If you win your girl back somehow, but don’t address these issues, you are just storing up problems for the future. You may very well have to take the plunge and go through with whatever commitment she wants. If you don’t want to do this, then getting your girlfriend back is probably not a good idea.

Another very common reason is lack of attention. Perhaps you started taking her for granted, no longer wanting to go out, you stopped making an effort with your appearance, you no longer treat her the way you used to. If you want to win your ex girlfriend back, you have to first think about how you can change this, and keep that change long term. Whether you do this by having regular fixed time together, or some other way – what is important is to keep it consistent and not slip back into your old ways again after a couple of weeks, or you may well find yourself asking for more advice about how to get your girlfriend back! Hope you found this post helpful guys. Interested to hear any comments you may have, and what strategy has helped you most when winning your girlfriend back.

In the previous post (below), we discussed the things you should not do when trying to get back with your girlfriend. So now that we know what the common mistakes men make are, we can focus on the right things to do to get your girlfriend back after a break up.

Firstly, you will remember that you are not begging, or trying to buy back her love. You are not arguing with her, or trying to persuade her to take you back. Although you want to do those things – they feel like the natural thing to do at the time – you are going to resist, and do the opposite.

You will not bring up the relationship at all; in fact you will play it cool. Don’t even mention what the break up, and make her think that you are ready to move on with your life, even though inside you feel like that is the last thing you want to do. Give her the impression that you are completely ok with the break up. Do not let her know that you are devastated, even though that is probably how you feel.

The only way you are going to win back your girlfriend is by making her view you the same way she viewed you when you first met. You were probably more confident than you are now, more in control, a decision maker. This most probably changed over the course of your relationship, and your girlfriend became the decision maker, then one in control – the balance of power shifted. When you changed, she lost her attraction for you. You need to restore these qualities before she can rediscover that attraction.

In a woman’s mind, attraction revolves around these things – confidence, assertiveness, leadership and decisiveness. Sure, popular culture likes to portray female attraction based solely upon a man’s looks or wealth, but it is these qualities that form the basis of a longer lasting attraction.

If you want to win back your ex girlfriend, you have to change your behaviour. It is not going to be easy, but it is the only way you will get her back and keep her.

If you are trying to win your girlfriend back, then you have probably already made some big mistakes in your strategy. These are the same mistakes that millions of men make all over the world, and have been making for thousands of years, and will probably be making for all time. (Unless reading my blog becomes mandatory when a boy turns 16)

You see, the reason we all make these mistakes, is because we don’t realise they are mistakes at the time. It seems like, and feels like, it is the right thing to do. 99% of men keep making these mistakes, and will never get back with their ex girlfriend. The core of strategy of successfully winning your ex back is to NOT do these things, you have to change the way you think and do the opposite of what feels natural. If you want to get your girl back, read on and take notes…

Don’t try to buy back her love.

This means no sending her bouquets of roses, buying her jewelry, or any other gifts of this kind. Doing this will not get your ex girlfriend to come back to you – in fact it is likely to push your girl further away. Doing this simply comes across as desperation, which is universally NOT an attractive quality. Women simply do not want a desperate man. To win your ex back, you have to portray yourself as a strong man who is as far removed from desperation as possible, even if inside you are feeling very desperate, which you probably/definitely are.

Don’t ever beg.

I have certainly been there – begging your girl that you will do anything if she will come back to you. You will change, you will be a better man… Most guys do this, so it’s nothing to be ashamed of. The problem here is that your girlfriend cannot simply “choose” to be attracted to you again if she has lost that attraction. Your job in the coming days and weeks is to recreate the attraction, and begging is not going to do that. In fact, it is another mistake that is going to push her further away, and lessen her attraction to you even further!

Don’t try to make her feel sorry for you

Showing her how depressed you are will paint you as a pitiful character in her eyes. Whilst she may feel sorry for you, or even guilty, this most definitely will not make her attracted to you again, and will not win your girlfriend back. One of the biggest turn offs for a woman is a needy and insecure Man. Women want a strong alpha male.

Don’t be indecisive

Women like men who are leaders. Do everything you can to be the type of man who leads, not follows. Don’t just agree to everything she says and wants, develop more assertion.

Stop being so nice!

That doesn’t mean you should be mean, but a guy who is too nice comes across as being either fake or weak. If you are being really nice to her after the break up in an attempt to win her back, she will know that you are not being genuine, and are trying to trick her in to considering getting back together with you.

Follow these tips, and you are already way ahead of the curve. Now that you know what not to do, you can start focusing on what action you need to take to get your ex girlfriend back.

Hi guys, as this is my first ever post to the blog, I thought I would make it a quick introduction to tell you what the blog is going to be about. I wanted to put together a blog that was dedicated to providing tips, advice, articles and other resources on how to get your girlfriend back! I guess the name gives it a way right? I wanted to build a blog that is entirely geared towards helping guys who are going through a rough patch to get the answers they need to their common question – “how do I get my girlfriend back?”

If you have already read my about page, you will know that I was dumped by my girlfriend about 6 months ago. She was the love of my life and it was devastating. I went through the range of emotions that if you are reading this, you have probably felt yourself, so I know exactly how you are feeling right now. I looked for answers and advice on the internet, but I couldn’t find anything that worked, or that I hadn’t already heard many times before.

Along the way, with the amount of reading I did, I think I learnt a lot, and I was lucky enough to find some great information that really worked well for me. Putting the advice and strategies I learnt into practice, I was able to sort things out, and get back with my girlfriend. Watch out for future posts where I will share as much information, advice, tips and strategies on how to get your girlfriend back as I can.

What has surprised me since going online was just how many likeminded guys there were out there looking for information on how to get back with your girlfriend. Although you may feel like you are alone right now, there are probably millions of guys all over the world going through exactly the same thing you are.

I would urge you to read every post on this blog, and do everything you can to win back your girlfriend. If I can do it, so can you! Remember you can leave a comment on one of my posts or go over to the contact page if you want to get in touch about anything.

Cheers

Dan.