If you are trying to win your girlfriend back, then you have probably already made some big mistakes in your strategy. These are the same mistakes that millions of men make all over the world, and have been making for thousands of years, and will probably be making for all time. (Unless reading my blog becomes mandatory when a boy turns 16)
You see, the reason we all make these mistakes, is because we don’t realise they are mistakes at the time. It seems like, and feels like, it is the right thing to do. 99% of men keep making these mistakes, and will never get back with their ex girlfriend. The core of strategy of successfully winning your ex back is to NOT do these things, you have to change the way you think and do the opposite of what feels natural. If you want to get your girl back, read on and take notes…
Don’t try to buy back her love.
This means no sending her bouquets of roses, buying her jewelry, or any other gifts of this kind. Doing this will not get your ex girlfriend to come back to you – in fact it is likely to push your girl further away. Doing this simply comes across as desperation, which is universally NOT an attractive quality. Women simply do not want a desperate man. To win your ex back, you have to portray yourself as a strong man who is as far removed from desperation as possible, even if inside you are feeling very desperate, which you probably/definitely are.
Don’t ever beg.
I have certainly been there – begging your girl that you will do anything if she will come back to you. You will change, you will be a better man… Most guys do this, so it’s nothing to be ashamed of. The problem here is that your girlfriend cannot simply “choose” to be attracted to you again if she has lost that attraction. Your job in the coming days and weeks is to recreate the attraction, and begging is not going to do that. In fact, it is another mistake that is going to push her further away, and lessen her attraction to you even further!
Don’t try to make her feel sorry for you
Showing her how depressed you are will paint you as a pitiful character in her eyes. Whilst she may feel sorry for you, or even guilty, this most definitely will not make her attracted to you again, and will not win your girlfriend back. One of the biggest turn offs for a woman is a needy and insecure Man. Women want a strong alpha male.
Don’t be indecisive
Women like men who are leaders. Do everything you can to be the type of man who leads, not follows. Don’t just agree to everything she says and wants, develop more assertion.
Stop being so nice!
That doesn’t mean you should be mean, but a guy who is too nice comes across as being either fake or weak. If you are being really nice to her after the break up in an attempt to win her back, she will know that you are not being genuine, and are trying to trick her in to considering getting back together with you.
Follow these tips, and you are already way ahead of the curve. Now that you know what not to do, you can start focusing on what action you need to take to get your ex girlfriend back.