In the previous post (below), we discussed the things you should not do when trying to get back with your girlfriend. So now that we know what the common mistakes men make are, we can focus on the right things to do to get your girlfriend back after a break up.
Firstly, you will remember that you are not begging, or trying to buy back her love. You are not arguing with her, or trying to persuade her to take you back. Although you want to do those things – they feel like the natural thing to do at the time – you are going to resist, and do the opposite.
You will not bring up the relationship at all; in fact you will play it cool. Don’t even mention what the break up, and make her think that you are ready to move on with your life, even though inside you feel like that is the last thing you want to do. Give her the impression that you are completely ok with the break up. Do not let her know that you are devastated, even though that is probably how you feel.
The only way you are going to win back your girlfriend is by making her view you the same way she viewed you when you first met. You were probably more confident than you are now, more in control, a decision maker. This most probably changed over the course of your relationship, and your girlfriend became the decision maker, then one in control – the balance of power shifted. When you changed, she lost her attraction for you. You need to restore these qualities before she can rediscover that attraction.
In a woman’s mind, attraction revolves around these things – confidence, assertiveness, leadership and decisiveness. Sure, popular culture likes to portray female attraction based solely upon a man’s looks or wealth, but it is these qualities that form the basis of a longer lasting attraction.
If you want to win back your ex girlfriend, you have to change your behaviour. It is not going to be easy, but it is the only way you will get her back and keep her.